Top 5 mistakes that Foreign guys make when dating Korean women.

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Living in Korea is very challenging. Even more so, building a life is even more work, especially a dating life. Unfortunately, foreigners who come here make big mistakes when it comes to meeting and dating Korean women. In fact, I’ve taken the time to write down what I’ve found to be the biggest mistakes that foreign men make, during years of living in Korea and professionally helping men date Asian women.

#5 Thinking that Korean women are easy

Before I came to Korea, I was very excited because I imagined that Korea was a lot like South East Asia: Just show up and women will be lining up to go on dates with you!

Ahem.

Korea, I soon found out once I arrived here, is on the opposite side of the dating spectrum. In fact, I’ll even say that foreigners have more hurdles to go through in Korea than anywhere else in Asia. This is especially true the darker you are. What can I say? Life’s tough for us (I’m darker skinned as well) but if you really want to find and date the ideal Korean woman for you, it’s definitely possible and we’ll make it happen!

#4 Forgetting that the East and the West are different

It doesn’t take long to figure out that Western women and Korean women look different. What does take an eternity for guys to figure out is that Western and Korean women think, act, and do different! This is more than just about the women themselves, but also the society and culture in which they’ve grown up in.

Korean women think that the man is responsible for escalating the date into something more. Therefor they won’t necessarily give you any sign, clue, hint, or impression that they want you to escalate the interaction. If they find you not wanting to hold their hand, caress their hair, or even kiss them, they will assume that you are not interested, and will move on.

Another key note is that Korean women love knowing that they have control of the date. This is quite different from Western women who enjoy being on the saddle more and feeling like they are taking control of the interaction. So they will act like they don’t like things more, will throw comments about your choices, BUT ultimately they want you to be in control and are more comfortable with it as well.

Also, Korean culture is quite the land mine. Have you hung out with Korean women? How about co-workers? Do you get the stares? Sometimes. How about those moments when you don’t get the stares?

She’s getting them. Big time.

Now I won’t get into the ‘whys’ or the “it shouldn’t be that way” debates. I will get into how they need to be considered when you’re going out with a Korean woman. For them, being looked at negatively by an adjoshi (which means ‘uncle’ in Korean) who could be her own father with whom she’s probably living with, is painful. You see, being with a foreigner is still very new and different for her, regardless of whether or not you’re a gyopo or not. You want to calibrate how much hand-holding, touching, and especially kissing when you’re with her.

This is even stronger for when you’re approaching a random woman at the bookstore, or coffee shop or even the subway. You want to assume that she will be shocked and even frightened when you are going up to talk to her. Even more so, you want to expect that she will feel uncomfortable with the situation. Be sure to calibrate how you’re talking to her based off of that, and make sure that she feels comfortable with talking to you first, before you escalate the interaction.

#3 Don’t take advantage of that first impression

Ever wondered why Italians and French were so successful at scoring dates with American or Canadian women? It’s because they take advantage of the first impression. Have you ever met an Italian man? To other men, they look like a typical guy with dark features, a weird accent, a slightly aggressive vibe, and an edgy look. What do they look like to women? An adventure…

Unfortunately, when I ride the subway, take the bus, hang out in Itaewon I see too many foreigners who look the same! They don’t have a ‘look’ going for them. They look like English teachers who just got off of work and are about to go to a bar. In other words, they look generic. They remind me more of the typical businessman adjosshi than the exciting and mysterious foreigner.

Foreigners are seen as different and exotic., Then how about using that to our advantage? Take a step back and look at how you can separate yourself from the rest of the foreigners out here. How can you make yourself look different than the rest of us? Think about your hobbies, passions, ethnicity, home country, and find your image that radiates from who you are.

Gyopos! This is even more important for you because otherwise you will just come across as an English-Speaking Korean. The reason why most Gyopos tend to be treated like Koreans who want to be foreigners is because they come across as Koreans who want to be foreigners. You need to make your distinction even stronger.

For example, I’m from Texas, am learning Korean as a hobby, and have lived in the Mediterranean. When I go out, I tend to wear a cowboy hat, a T-shirt with Hangul in it, and leave a rugged look, similar to an Italians’. Do you think that I stand out? You bet! Do women come up to me and start conversations with me? You bet! Am I different from the rest of the pack? You bet!

Show your unique self more aggressively, and allow that to make women and people, curious about who you are and wanting to learn more…

#2 Not wanting to learn about their world

One thing that just gets be cringing is how many foreigners I meet who have lived here for years and know nothing about the culture besides Chuseok and Chinese New Years vacation! Most foreigners here don’t even speak basic Korean! Most foreigners don’t even bother trying!

Think about it. Imagine foreigners coming to your home country and not speaking the language. Not even bothering to! This is a big mistake!

Learning Korean is one of the BEST things you can do for yourself even if you’re only staying here for a month! You see, it’s not that you speak the language that counts, it’s that you’re willing to learn about them and their world. This gets you lots of points when it comes to meeting and dating Korean women. I mean even reading Hangul was designed to be easy! And what a great skill to have when you go back home and share your adventures with your social circle.

#1 Not going out at all!

This is THE biggest mistake I see guys make, and yet it’s the easiest one to deal with. Most foreigners who come here choose to go from work or school to their homes and only go out to go shopping!

Granted, this might be because it’s intimidating to be a foreigner in this country, or they might have kept the habit from their home country. Whatever the reason, this habit must go! And you don’t have to go to Hongdae, high-priced clubs or massive social events. You can go to coffee shops, bookstores, parks (during this time of year it’s great), such as Namsan park. Personally, I like coffee shops as Korea has become a coffee-drinking country, which I am happy to see.

Mark Webber leads practice session at Formula One Sepang!

Picture courtesy of Kenny Ng. =)

Mark Webber on Friday set the pace for Red Bull Racing as practice opened for the Malaysian Grand Prix, and while the team's speed hardly came as a surprise, this is likely to be a far from predictable weekend.

After tires were hardly an issue in Australia two weeks ago, they are the main point of discussion at Sepang. While Pirelli hoped that higher track and ambient temperatures would be favorable, wear rates and degradation are high. So expect to see the sort of scenario suggested by winter testing in Barcelona, with three or four stops and drivers experiencing a sharp and dramatic drop-off in lap times when the tires go over the edge.

While it remained dry on Friday, as usual it had rained most afternoons this week. There remains a good chance that wet weather could impact qualifying, the race, or both. Webber was an amazing 1.7 seconds clear of Lewis Hamilton in the morning session--suggesting that he was running a different testing strategy to everyone else--but the gap closed in the afternoon, when Jenson Button was just 0.005 second behind.

“Obviously there's not much in it,” said Webber. “We're all pretty close, give or take a couple of tenths--who got traffic, who didn't, how their KERS worked. So far, so good, I'm toward the front somewhere. “It's still early days in the weekend. We got some good dry running in, and the car performed well. Obviously it was reliable, which was a nice bonus, so we got to check all the tires, and also Pirelli's new tire that they brought here.

Button was only 15th and struggling in the morning, but McLaren made drastic changes to his car's setup through the day and it paid dividends. The 2009 world champion was much happier, although he was unable to say what the real gap to Red Bull is. Hamilton was third and just 0.134 second shy of Webber as once again McLaren emerged as the most likely challenger to Red Bull.

Sebastian Vettel was fourth, while behind it was Mercedes GP versus Ferrari as Michael Schumacher led Felipe Massa and Nico Rosberg, while Fernando Alonso was ninth. The Mercedes drivers were upbeat about progress while Alonso admitted it had been a tough day, but expected to move forward on Saturday. Renault experienced a difficult day after both cars suffered problems with a new batch of front-suspension uprights. Nick Heidfeld had to drive back to the pits with a front wheel locked solid, while later in the morning session Vitaly Petrov had a front wheel more or less explode, shattering the left front suspension. After repairs, Heidfeld was eighth fastest in the afternoon.

Pastor Maldonado was a solid 11th for Williams, though his day was spoiled when he spun into the barrier as he entered the pit lane. Fellow rookie Jerome d'Ambrosio had a shock when a front-suspension failure pitched him off the road. Meanwhile, both HRTs logged some laps, although Tonio Liuzzi stopped when he hit a curb and managed to switch off his ignition.

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